Paradise Pack Journal 005: How to overcome feeling overwhelmed
A quick look back at the last few weeks
Collectively now we’ve had nearly 2 months of action within The Paradise Pack, and I can honestly say that they have been some of the best weeks of my life (that sounds like a massive exaggeration but I mean it!)
When we look back, what we have been able to accomplish in 2 months is nothing short of a miracle. For me personally I’ve altered my daily routine, changed my habits, grown my friendship circle to people who make me accountable for the actions that I take and above all else, I’m now in a position where I’m about to embark on a brand new adventure, quit my job and pursue that ‘dream lifestyle’ that I’ve been wanting for years.
So how come I have this gut wrenching feeling in my stomach?
It’s something that I’ve seen pop up a few times in the last week or so with other members of The Paradise Pack either through conversation, the Facebook group or just a small message. It seems I’m not alone in feeling the strain.
What I’ve been experiencing is this feeling of being overwhelmed.
I’ve chosen my battle route, I’ve made the plans. I’ve booked the flights and I’ve come up with a business plan (of sorts) and guess what I’m left with?
That feeling of:
OH SHIT! THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING?!
If I were a gambling man I’d be willing to put money on the fact that there are at least a couple of you reading this who are feeling exactly the same way.
Why are we feeling overwhelmed?
Now I’m by no means an expert on understanding this sort of stuff, but what I’ve realised is that the reason I’m feeling overwhelmed is that I’ve got a list as long as my arm of things that I want to accomplish. To name just a few things I’ve got on my list:
Get ahead of my posting schedule and write blog posts for August
Setup site backup
Keyword research for my site
Talk to Paradise Pack Group about a Linked-In Collaboration
Complete a business plan
Add an opt-in tick box to the comments section of my site
So you can see how I might be feeling a little overwhelmed, considering how much I’ve set myself to do.
Why else am I feeling overwhelmed?
After months of planning and fantasizing about sipping a pina colada on a beach in Thailand whilst ‘working’, I’m finally about to make that fantasy a reality.
And the reality of it is scary!
Suddenly, something that was just a dream is becoming reality and with reality comes consequences and fears. The main reason we have fears and feel overwhelmed is simply down to the fact that we care. We care about making it a success.
For me, my biggest fear is that if I don’t make my business a success in potentially 12 months time, I’ll have to return to a traditional 9-6 job that I hate.
But on the flip side, my biggest fear of NOT starting a business is that I’ll always be wondering what if? Wondering what I could have accomplished and still hating the 9-6 job that I’m in.
So what’s the real risk? Not taking the risk in the first place, that’s what!
I believe that due to the success of The Paradise Pack, and how much Travis & Jason have inspired us to be successful and to strive to create the lifestyle businesses that we all want to create, the knock on effect is that for a lot of us it is now becoming a potential reality, and that’s scary!
So how do we overcome this feeling of being overwhelmed?
I believe that there are a couple of ways in which we can overcome these feelings. Firstly, take a break! I don’t know about you but every free moment I’ve had in the last 2 months I’ve been working on my blog, planning my website or working through courses on The Paradise Pack or if none of the above I’ve been helping other people through the Facebook group work towards their own goals.
That's a lot!
Take a minute to step away from the madness
Sometimes you just need to take a minute, step away from the madness and take half a day or a few hours back for yourself. Book a massage, meditate, go out for a nice meal with your friends or family or simply go for a nice long walk with some relaxing music. Remember, every day is a gift.
Get an accountability Partner
Another great thing that we can do is to have an accountability partner. Last week I talked about the importance of making your goals accountable in an email I sent out to my subscribers.
If you want to download a PDF of that email from last week:
What I talked about was how when we talk about our goals and our challenges and what we are overwhelmed by with somebody else, it helps us to share the burden and it also helps us realize that we are not alone in our endeavours.
Having an accountability partner also helps you focus on your goals, as you have somebody who is cheering you on from the sidelines and somebody who understands what you are both trying to achieve. Somebody who you can bounce ideas off or just talk to when you’re getting those feelings of being overwhelmed.
Set 2 goals for the day to accomplish
Another great thing to do is to just set yourself 2 goals to accomplish for the day. I’ve gotten this idea from Heath’s amazing Sweet Ass Journal, and when you have a list as long as I do of things you want to achieve and accomplish you can run the risk of trying to do too much at once and in the process not actually getting anything achieved at all!
Heath tells us how to do this in a few different ways but my favourite bit of advice that he gave me was this. Think of two actions that you want to achieve for the day. Write one goal on either side of the card (business card or something similar will do just fine). Throughout the day take that card out of your pocket, look at it, and refocus your efforts on completing just those two tasks.
This little technique works wonders in helping you single-task and focuses on completing one goal instead of trying to work on multiple things at once and ultimately never getting those goals completed.
Final thoughts? Who is your mentor?
Working through Sean’s course this week I filled in a questionnaire which helps you to address exactly where you are at on your journey to starting your own location independent business. One of the questions he asks which really hit home was:
‘Do you have a mentor in mind who’s been through this before?’
This opened a file in my mind as I remember reading through Heath’s journal and he mentioned that he had a mentor who he spoke to on a regular basis who helped him achieve his goals, somebody who had gone through this kind of venture before.
I realized that this was what I was lacking and I’m now in the pursuit of finding a mentor, somebody who would be willing to work alongside me to help me grow. I don’t know if I’ll have to reach out and pay for a 1 to 1 coach, or whether there may be somebody who is reading this post who feels like they would be willing to help me.
(If that is you please do get in touch as I can promise you whatever energy you put into helping me I will return 10 fold in the future in the pursuit of success and happiness.)
So for anybody that is just starting out on their blog and needs some support, I’ve been through that and I’ve had some of the trials and tribulations of it all. Please feel free to reach out! I’m more than happy to help you in whatever way possible to get the ball rolling for you and for you to achieve your goals!
My advice for any of you that are feeling overwhelmed is to jump out of a moving vehiclejust breathe. Take a minute for yourself, think about all you have accomplished in two months and don’t be afraid.
We are all in this together and I have no doubt in my mind we will make whatever we choose to do in life a massive success.